How To Escape The Need To Be Perfect All The Time
"Why can't I stop that need to be perfect?"
"My need to be perfect is hurting my life. Help!"
"I'm driving myself and my family nuts with my perfectionism."
"I don't know how to get past my need to always be perfect all the time."
Being a perfectionist is a very challenging way to lead your life. In most cases, it's a road to disappointment and dissatisfaction. Furthermore, it can have a negative effect on your friendships and relationships.
When you're a perfectionist, nothing is ever as perfect as you'd like it to be. Perfectionism consists of demanding a higher level of performance than the situation dictates.
The key to excellence is finding an optimum performance level to achieve good results.
Implement these seven tips will help you escape your un-quenching need for perfectionism:
Start Slow & Small.
Eliminating the urge to have everything be perfect takes time. It's important to start slowly and congratulate yourself for each victory, even the small ones. Set reasonable goals and reward your accomplishments. Give yourself a break!
What's first for you?
Make Others Feel Great.
Trying to be perfect and expecting the same from others is an attempt to control them. This can be off-putting because others want to be free to act without being criticized. Make others feel great instead of judging them. Provide everyone else a break, too!
Who have you driven crazy with your perfectionism?
Open Your Eyes.
Learn how to see all the variations. Just because something is less than 100% doesn't mean it equals zero. That's an overly simplified way of dealing with the world.
- Avoid viewing everything as all-or-nothing. The subtleties of life hold most of the beauty of the world. Open your eyes and consider everything.
- Learn to understand when something is good enough and then move on to the next thing. Spending more time or effort than necessary is far from being perfect. If you think about it, perfectionism a way of being excessive and inefficient.
Are your eyes wide open?
Deal With Negative Results.
Avoid over-emphasizing them. View these situations as anomalies, rather than evidence of anything else. Avoid giving negative results more relevance than they deserve.
How will you deal with negative results?
Develop Your Sense Of Humor.
With a good sense of humor, you can shift your perspective quickly and easily. This makes it easier to deal with those situations that turn out less than perfect.
Realize Most Mistakes Aren't Fatal.
Nearly any mistake can be rectified. When things go in an unplanned direction, go with the flow. This can be challenging for a perfectionist.
- Avoid letting your emotions lead you to a negative, unproductive state. Instead, be proactive and start coming up with solutions that will still take you to your goal. They may include a temporary detour, or take longer than originally planned, but the end result will be satisfactory.
How will you deal with mistakes?
Avert the urge to use perfectionism as a way to procrastinate. Some perfectionists avoid beginning a task that's less than desirable. Getting started and making a few mistakes is more preferable than doing nothing at all or getting started too late. Stop procrastinating!
Are you a procrastinator? How will you overcome the urge?
Perfectionism can and will negatively impact your life. Why? Because it's an ineffective and unenjoyable way to live.
You need to let go of your need to be perfect. You'll be more satisfied with your life and feel much more joy. Your loved ones will appreciate it too!
Follow these seven tips today and free yourself!
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