How To Let Bygones Be Bygones - Move Onward, Upward and Forward
"How do I let go of past mistakes?"
"I need to let go of some really stupid mistakes I made a long time ago."
"I don't know how to let bygones be bygones."
"I keep letting my past interfere with my future."
You cannot change the past.
Deep down you know that.
No matter how many times you wish you'd done something differently, the past will always remain the past.
You must find a way to, once and for all, be done with any and all feelings of regret.
Otherwise, if you continue to fret over the past, you will allow negative feelings to consume more and more of your life.
It's time to put a stop to it, move forward and start thinking positively again.
Getting caught up in the past.
It's easy to get caught up in the past. Nobody's perfect and, no matter how hard you try, you'll still continue to make mistakes. It's how you handle your mistakes that will make the true difference in your life.
If you've made a mistake or suffered a tragedy in the recent past, don't allow the tragedy to replay in your head over and over. You'll continue to relive the negative feels as if you were continually going through the tragedy. No one deserves this! Instead, you have two choices, you can actively work on correcting your mistake, or you can let the feelings go because they're not helpful to you in that moment.
What's keeping you stuck in the past?
Learn from your mistakes.
There are lessons to be learned in every mistake you make no matter how minor it might be. The goal is to work on discovering what these lessons are.
When negative feelings surround you regarding your past, focus on the lesson learned. Maybe you would have never learned that lesson without the mistake. And now that you've gained this wisdom you can avoid making that mistake again in the future.
You can take everything one step further and do more with the lessons you've learned. Perhaps you can raise awareness by telling others about your experience. If you can help others avoid the same mistakes, you'll be doing something great for the world. It'll also help you feel better about the situation.
Take a minute.
What lessons have you learned from these past events and mistakes?
You need to do your best to avoid resentment and all negative emotions. Resentment is a poisonous emotion that can go out of control if you don't deal with it. You've probably heard of people who have had a falling out with a family member and resentment keeps them apart for the better part of their lives. Think about all the good times they've missed out on because of this bitterness!
How much resentment are you living with? Who with? Why? Is it worth it?
Let it go.
Depending on what you've gone through, there may be a mourning period associated with your situation, but you'll eventually need to let it go. Since you know that nothing can change the past, letting go can prove to be very liberating.
When you let it all go, you learn to forgive yourself and forgive others. Forgiveness is such an important thing to promote in your life. It allows you to grow as a person and blossom forward to enjoy all that life has to offer. You weren't meant to sit around mourning the past no matter how tragic it's been for you.
Are you finally ready to let go of the past: YES or NO?
How negative thinking hurts you.
When it comes down to it, sometimes you keep telling yourself you're over it but the negative thinking keeps creeping back into your life. You need to fully realize that the only person you're hurting is yourself.
Let's say you've hurt someone's feelings. You may think about this day and night until you can't take it anymore, and you have to seek this person out to apologize. The person might not even remember what happened, or they may just accept your apology. The point is you suffered with negative thoughts until you sought forgiveness.
What negative thoughts are swirling around your head?
There's no need to constantly and continually suffer because you made a mistake.
Instead seek peace and resolution, then move forward with your head held high!
It's time for you to let go.
Move onward, upward and forward.
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