The Best Ways To Improve Your Self-Esteem

Everyone needs to feel a sense of self-worth and healthy self-esteem in order to live a happy and successful life. The alternative is feeling inadequate, depressed and anxiety ridden.

Below are simple but effective ways to change your attitude in yourself. In doing so, you will find that you can change your life!

It's time for you to build your own self-worth and self-esteem starting NOW.

Boost your self-esteem and solve your problem, click here.

Replies (14)
  • Help other people.

    People who do good in the world usually end up with a positive view of themselves. Helping somebody out can have a big effect on your feelings of self worth.

    Of course, this does not mean denying your own wishes and becoming a person who is taken for granted. Putting yourself last in a negative way is what many people with low self esteem have been doing for years. When you choose to help, be clear that it is your choice. That way you always stay in control of what you do.

    • List your positive qualities.

      Start by making a list of positive things about yourself. These can be anything that you like about yourself, or things that other people might like. It could be something you like about the way you look, or an attractive personality trait, a success that you have had (even if it was a long time ago), or something kind or good that you did.

      Aim for a list of 100 items. You can spend a few days doing it, but be sure to add some every day. Finish it within a week if you can. Then when you have your 100, keep adding one new one every day.

      This is a great way to increase your appreciation of your own positive qualities. After a while, looking at this list and adding to it every day, you will naturally come to a point of view where you see that the world is a better place for having you in it.

      • Learn to say what you think and feel.

        Many people who have low esteem feel that they are not entitled to have an opinion, because what they think and feel has no value. When somebody says something that you don't agree with, try saying so. There is no need to get angry or make a long speech: just say, "I don't agree."

        You will find that the sky does not fall in when you say that. Often times, nothing happens at all. Sometimes somebody will ask you why. If that happens, limit yourself to saying what you think or feel about the question without turning it into a battle about who is right. People can have different opinions without one of them having to be right and the other wrong.

        • Believe people when they give you a compliment.

          If you have low self esteem and somebody says something nice about you, your instinctive reaction is probably that you don't believe them. You will either assume that they are stupid or weird, or you will think that they are not seeing the real you, or you will believe they are trying to flatter you because they want something.

          Your reaction will probably be to put yourself down in some way. This puts them down too, because you are basically telling them they are wrong to like whatever it was that they just complimented you on.

          Try just saying "Thank you" and nothing else. If you do this, you are not trying to stop them from liking you. You are saying that you respect their opinion. You might also come to believe it: and then you will no longer have to rank yourself among the many thousands or millions with low self esteem.

          • Don't let yourself be treated badly.

            People with low self-esteem will often find partners and friends who support this belief by being mean or treating them badly. For example, a woman may hook up with a man who is alcoholic, repeatedly unfaithful, violent or just puts her down all the time.

            If you see this happening to other people, it's easy to give good advice. When it's happening in your own life, it's harder to do what you know is right, but the bottom line is that if you want to be happy, you have to stop accepting being treated this way.

            The first step is to make it clear that the bad behavior is not okay any more. If that doesn't work, you may decide to get out of the situation.

            • 5768