How To Think Positive & Be Optimistic When Life Just Sucks

Angela G. writes...

"Jeff, hey. My life stinks right now. Nothing is going the way it should and all I want to do is sleep. Advice from you would  help me a lot. Thanks a million. :("

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  • Watch your language.

    Do you speak positively to yourself and others, or are you judgmental and negative? Try to shift over to only positive speech. Practice using upbeat words while you focus on the positive in every situation.

    • Prioritize.

      Start by determining the most appropriate issues, situations and times to be optimistic about. Instead of chasing after many things, some of which may be unlikely, try focusing your energy on what's most important.

      • Stay focused on your own passions.

        When we do what we love, we feel joy, and joy generates optimism.

        • Whether you play a musical instrument, love working on cars, or enjoy pursuing any other activity, be sure to set aside time in your week for your hobby. If you can, enjoy some "me" time each day.

        • Practicing your craft, hobby, or passion will help prevent you from hanging your hopes on another person, place, or thing. All the joy you need is within you and you'll rediscover this moment by moment as you do what you love.

        • Following your bliss also helps keep you in the present. The past has already passed. And the future hasn't come yet. All you have this moment. Don't you want to make the most of it? When you do, your future almost invariably turns out to be more to your liking also!
        • Open your mind to new possibilities.

          Maybe you were expecting a promotion that never came. Or perhaps you even lost your job. Now is a great time to explore other opportunities.

          • Although you undoubtedly were looking forward to whatever didn't happen, or were happy to avoid what did, the truth is that the future is in your hands.

          • Maybe you always wanted to try freelancing, or making something with your hands for a living. Now is the time to run in that direction. Nothing is stopping you anymore, not even waiting around for a different dream to come to pass.
          • Remember, there's always help!

            Whether you make use of your social network or see a licensed counselor, other people are there to support you as you move toward your next adventure.

            • If you find yourself really feeling depressed, and nothing seems to work to banish it, you may want to check out professional counseling services. Therapists are trained to walk people through all sorts of life transitions and can definitely assist with yours.
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