How To Go From Unhappy To Happy

Robert writes...

"I'm so damn unhappy and dissatisfied with my life. Don't know what to do with myself. Some tips would be timely right now. Thanks dude."

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  • Great topic Robert. Here goes!

    Let me begin by saying there isn't one simple cure-all for unhappiness.

    Your goal should be to start small and take simple steps first. Don't make them to hard. Make them easy to accomplish yet satisfying. Then build on that!

    Over the course of days, weeks and months, you will find your generally happiness and joyfulness increasing incrementally.

    Don't wait another minute.

    Start now!

    Below are a lot of ways to add more happiness to your life.

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      • Foster an attitude of appreciation.

        It's possible that you take certain aspects of your life for granted. This could include anything from having a car, shelter, food to eat and many other aspects of your lifestyle that a majority of the people on this planet could only dream of.

        • For one reason or another, people who are happy, seem to be content and appreciate of whatever they have.

        • The mindset in which you take nothing for granted will usually require no more than a shift in attitude. You won't have to change anything about your external circumstances.

        • To remind yourself to be appreciative, make it a point to reflect on everything that you’re thankful for once a day. Doing this as you fall asleep each night helps to brush your cares away as you fall into restful slumber, preparing the way for a great day tomorrow.
        • Engage in activities you enjoy.

          Although this seems obvious, it’s helpful to remind yourself that the things you love to do can bring you real happiness. Make time for activities that you enjoy each week!

          What should you do?

          There are plenty of wealthy people that are miserable because they don’t spend their time doing something that they love. Life is about doing and experiencing things. If you spend all day doing stuff you love to do, it’s pretty difficult to be unhappy.

          • Find ways to spend your time in activities that are meaningful to you. Make a list and start incorporating those things into your life on a daily basis. If you can find work that you’re passionate about, so much the better for you!
          • Push your boundaries.

            Studies have shown that individuals who aren’t afraid to try new things or partake in experiences outside their comfort zone tend to feel happier.

            • The joys of discovery and curiosity make you feel more alive.
            • Be realistic about achieving goals.

              Expecting success overnight, unless you have just won the lottery, is a sure recipe for disappointment. Happy people are realistic and pragmatic when it comes to setting and achieving their goals.

              • They understand exactly how much time and effort may be required to achieve a goal, and if they ever fall short, they’ll put in the necessary additional work required to reach their goal.

              • People who are always happy are also aware of the fact that, just because they are putting in all of the necessary work to achieve their goal, there is no guarantee that their goal will ever be reached.

              • This may sound pessimistic, however, this is merely to state that they are aware of the possibility that external factors outside of their control could easily change outcomes. Being aware of this can help lessen the blow when unforeseen circumstances arise.
              • Create a living space you love.

                When you construct the perfect living space, you’ll feel at home as soon as you step in the door. With a small amount of money, you can infuse colors you love and things that bring contentment into your surroundings.

                • Start with one room and decorate it to your liking. Clip pictures from magazines for inspiration. Feeling at home in your own space brings deep feelings of connectedness, safety, and security. These are all necessary for happiness.
                • Spend less time focusing on the details.

                  Those who take a positive approach to life, without getting hung up on the details, live the happiest lives.

                  • When you spend time worrying about a remark someone said, a look a friend gave you, or an unsavory incident from your day, you’re subtracting from your happiness factor.

                  • Rather than analyzing every segment of an exchange you had with your spouse or a colleague, focus on the positive aspects instead.
                  • Put others first.

                    Achieving happiness can sometimes be the opposite of what you might think. You may be wondering how you can bring yourself closer towards achieving happiness if you put others first.

                    • Putting other people first automatically requires you to have a more humble and appreciative outlook on life. In addition to this, making others happy will invariably bring more happiness into your own life.

                    Volunteer and give to others.

                    When you step up to help someone, you’ll feel happy and fulfilled. It’s also true that we’re happier when we buy gifts for others instead of ourselves.

                    • Bask in the success of your family & friends.

                      When someone close to you accomplishes something, ensure you’re there to celebrate with them. Share joy with one another.

                      • Got love?

                        Everyone needs someone to love. If you don’t think you have someone to love, go find someone. The world is full of people that feel unloved so it shouldn’t take you too long to find a volunteer. We all need someone to cherish and care for.

                        • Fortunately, the people and animals we genuinely love tend to love us back.

                        • What do you look forward to?

                          If the only thing you have to look forward to is more of the same, boring routine, it’s difficult to be happy. Everyone should have something to look forward to in the near future.

                          • Think about something you’d really like to do or see. Maybe it could be something as simple as a yoga class. If you love going to yoga on Thursday nights, it can make your Mondays a little easier when you know that yoga is looming in your future.
                          • Use your downtime joyfully.

                            Perhaps your biggest challenge is dealing with downtime. When you’re bored, lonely, anxious, sad, stressed or depressed and don’t have something to do, it’s easy to resort to less than ideal behaviors. These behaviors not only accomplish nothing positive, but they can also make your life more challenging.

                            • This would include things like watching TV, surfing the internet, eating when you aren’t hungry, shopping for stuff you don’t really want or need, drinking, drugs, serial dating, and more. These behaviors do nothing to solve the underlying issue and can create more difficulties.

                            • Coping with negative feelings effectively makes life much easier. Read something worthwhile, go for a jog, meet up with a friend and do something fun, make a new friend, or work on a hobby. Substitute you’re bad habits with new, more beneficial habits that bring you closer to the good life you imagine for you and your family.

                            • Learn to take a moment and pause before you go on autopilot. If you’re going for the fridge and you’re not hungry, simply STOP. Ask yourself why you’re doing this and what other action you could take.
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