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How To Think Positive & Be Optimistic When Life Just Sucks (Viewed 2131 times)
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Angela G. writes...

"Jeff, hey. My life stinks right now. Nothing is going the way it should and all I want to do is sleep. Advice from you would  help me a lot. Thanks a million. :("
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Hi Angela.

Head up!

Let's start off by acknowledging you may be depressed. Please click here for super helpful advice.

Now, onto "positive thinking."

Your outlook on life is so important, and yet many people never give it much thought.

It may be difficult to be positive when everything around you seems to be falling to pieces, but keeping the faith is the only way to trudge through hard times and see yourself clear to better days.

Your mindset will determine your level of success, or lack thereof. If you're positive, it will open doors for you and lead to a happier life. However, if you're negative, you face the opposite future.

Being optimistic might seem like an enormous task, but there are simple things you can do to improve your outlook.

If you practice each day, you'll be doing yourself a great favor, since your mindset is the very foundation for achieving success and fulfillment.

Below are great ideas, tips and solutions to be more optimistic. Everyone, post your own suggestions and add to the list!

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Four secrets to positive thinking.

SECRET #1: NOBODY’S PERFECT.

When you can latch onto this simple little secret, you will be amazed at the change you’ll notice within yourself. You’ll no longer feel so angry all the time. You will start to give people the benefit of the doubt. Best of all, you will learn to forgive and not hold grudges.

SECRET #2: EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES.

What’s the first thing that happens when you see someone make a mistake? Are you immediately judgmental? Do you think to yourself that they had it coming to them? Negative thoughts like these are detrimental, not only to the other person, but more so to you. Allow for mistakes, and refer back to Secret #1.

SECRET #3: BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE.

Just because you consider yourself to be a good person, that doesn’t exclude you from having anything bad happen to you. All too often, a negative and pessimistic attitude is brought on because of seemingly one bad thing happening after another. Life is filled with bad things and disappointments. It is up to you to choose how to react to them, though.

SECRET #4: YOUR MIND DETERMINES YOUR LIFE.

You really can determine how your life will turn out, based on your way of thinking. If you constantly look for bad things to happen, guess what? Bad things will most likely happen to you. But if you turn your thoughts to a more positive nature, and find the good in everything, you’ll soon become a happier person and live a much happier life.
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Avoid feeling sorry for yourself.

Feeling sorry for yourself only wastes precious brainpower and it's not going to help you out in the long run. Instead, strive to gain the wisdom to accept your situation and focus on solutions, instead of sorrow or worry. Everyone has to travel through tough times at some point; it's just a part of life!
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Reflect on the past.

Surely you've encountered seemingly insurmountable situations in the past. How have you succeeded in the most unpleasant scenarios? Clearly, your ability to overcome these situations speaks loudly for your strength and abilities.

In some situations, you may be able to emulate your past solutions by adapting them to fit your current situation. Other times, you'll be able to learn what not to do from past trials and tribulations.

The past needn't dictate your future. It's possible to reflect without working up old, unresolved feelings. This is a positive exercise. If you begin to feel negative emotions, move onto another technique, which can help you increase self-confidence in your abilities.
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Find the life lesson.

It may be hard to find the silver lining, but it's almost always hiding somewhere. All of your experiences - both good and bad - contribute to your life's knowledge. Be thankful for what you know!

Reflect on the fact that you've gained wisdom and knowledge that may help you make better decisions and cope well in the future.
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Stop worrying.

When you're going through a tough situation, sometimes your worries can overtake you. The future might seem scary and bleak and you're not sure what you should do. As you know, worrying isn't going to help the situation in the least. Instead, the moment worry creeps in, redirect your mind onto something positive or reassuring.

Stay calm and start brainstorming some practical solutions.
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Be brave about change.

Change is inevitable and most often you don't even notice that it's happening. During tough times, however, you're likely more sensitive to the changes that are taking place.

Think about change as an exciting adventure. You'll never know what you can discover and learn until you're open to change.
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Act immediately.

Rather than retreating into your personal cocoon when a situation becomes intimidating, address it immediately. The longer you allow a situation to sit without attention, the more urgent it will become. A perfect example is debt.

Avoid cornering yourself with urgency by creating a proactive plan now. Or, better yet, have a just-in-case plan before the event ever happens. It's okay to take a few hours to create a plan of attack. But, if you're still brainstorming weeks from today, you may be stalling.

Only you can be the source of a solution. You are in charge of managing your life and ensuring its success. Take pride in this power. After all, you're free - no one commands you! Your life is what you make it. And you can use your power to start off on the right foot each and every day.

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Start small.

Take some time to reflect on the difficult situation. If you're having trouble finding a positive manner of thinking, just start by smiling at yourself in the mirror. You might not feel happy right away, but it sure will be hard not to feel happy when you see a beautiful smiling face staring back at you!

You can also consider the use of positive affirmations to help you through tough times. The more frequently you repeat your affirmations, the sooner you'll ingrain the positive beliefs into your subconscious.
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Believe it.

You will make it through. You've found your way out of a tough situation before. You'll do it now and again sometime in the future. There is always a way to get your head above the water - always. You'll get better at it once you gain experience.
  • You have a fan base of supporters. Your children, spouse, and extended family are cheering you on every day. Chances are that no one doubts your abilities the way you do. In fact, they have faith in your abilities because you've proven your strength time and time again.

  • As Bernice Johnson Reagon once said, "Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they're supposed to help you discover who you are."

  • Now is as good of a time as any to show yourself what you're made of. Confirm to yourself that you're as strong and tenacious as you suspect yourself to be.
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Avoid getting hung up on one thing.

Sometimes you may feel like there's one situation that's holding you back. Maybe there's just one thing that has seemingly ruined your day. Resolve to let it go so it doesn't bother you anymore. After all, there's a whole world out there just waiting for you to experience!
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