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How To Say No Without Being Rude Or Impolite

"How do I say NO?"

"I have no ability to be firm and say no."

"I'm frightened to say no."

"I am having a hard time being able to say the word NO."

Do you find it impossible to be assertive and say NO? To anybody?

Are you tired of appeasing your family, friends, spouse, partner and even complete strangers and finally be able to say NO?

I'm about to teach you the art of saying NO without hurting anyone's feelings. It's an important skill to acquire yet very easy to learn.

Saying "no" doesn't mean you have to be rude about it. Or even mean. There are plenty of polite, yet assertive, ways you can say "no" when you need to.

Here are 5 ways to say "no" without being rude or impolite:

It's NO for right now.

You can say NO to now, but YES to later. Here's the easiest method of saying no without feeling guilty.

  • Say: "I'm very busy right at the moment. Perhaps someone else can help you. If not, I'll have time later in the day to help you out."

This is the perfect beginners way to say "no." It's assertive, but also positive and kind. You've let the person know there's no way you can do what they're asking at the moment. They need to respect your busy schedule. However, you gave them the option to ask someone else or wait until you have the time to help them out.

 

It's NO, unless…

You can say NO unless something changes.

  • Say: "I'm very flattered that you've picked me to help. However, I'm not currently in a position where I can take on this responsibility right now. I've got my hands full. Can we talk about this in a few days to see if there's a change in my circumstances?"

This statement says "no" while also still being very polite. You let the person know how thrilled you are that they've asked you for help. You were also honest about how little time you have right now to commit to their request.

 

No!

You can say a definitive NO.

  • Say: "I'm sorry. I hate to disappoint you, but I'm not able to do this. I'm afraid I'll overextend myself today and fall way behind."

Here, you expressed regret for disappointing the person, yet you still let them know that this is a solid "no." They will get the message that you will overextend yourself, which will make them them sympathetic to the plight you're in as well.

This answer is very polite and kind. Plus, it allows them to understand your perspective.

 

NO about money.

You can say NO to loaning money to someone.

  • Say: "I really wish I could, but I make it my practice not to loan money to friends and family." Or Say: "I totally wish I could, but money is very tight right now and I'd fall behind on my bills very quickly."

Money is the #1 thing that people ask for from their friends and family. It's a difficult situation. You don't want to insult them or hurt their feelings, but it's uncomfortable to say yes. This statement is a nice way to be assertive and say "no" while still being kind.

You let them know that you wish you could loan them the money, yet you go on to explain why you can't. You made it clear that this is your reason why, and you're not just saying "no" to him or her personally.

 

No, I don't want to go.

You can say NO to attending an event or outing.

  • Say: "I had a great time the last time I went, but I won't be able to make it this time since I'm already overscheduled."

Sometimes you get asked to an event you don't want to attend. Or it's that you just don't have the time. Don't feel obligated to say yes and go. This statement lets the person know you've had a great time in the past, but you're overscheduled or too busy this time around.

 

For whatever reason, so many people feel the need to always say "yes." But I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to feel like these are things you must fit into your already hectic schedule.

You can take control of your calendar and your sanity. You can say NO to some offers that come your way. Saying NO in a pleasant tone of voice won't lose you any friends; but it will allow you to set boundaries.

Don't be a pushover. If you need to say NO, do so and stop feeling guilty about it. It's not rude or impolite to say NO when it's sincere.

Just say NO!

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10/16/2013 (10/16/2013)
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Learn how to be honest, forthright and say no when it's appropriate.Otherwise, you will end up being resentful and that hurts everybody.
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