How To Quickly Overcome Adversity And Stop Feeling Miserable
"How do I overcome the obstacles in my path?"
"I feel miserable from the moment I wake up until the moment I fall asleep?"
"I need super strength to get over my situation. What do you suggest?"
"I've tried everything to get out of my life slump. Nothing works. Help!"
Everyone faces adversity.
Some people deal with adversity head on, while others get smacked around and live miserably.
On the news, you hear stories where average people successfully bounce back from great adversity.
How do they do this? What do they have that you don’t?
People like this know how to move forward and start over again. Even in the depths of despair, they get up and move forward.
Resilience is the main character trait that determines whether someone is able to dust themselves off and get back into the game of life.
Some people are practically destroyed by misfortune and are very good at remaining a victim. But others come back even stronger from adversity. People that are very resilient have some unique traits.
Researchers have shown that resilient people possess 6 traits:
Optimistic about the future.
Resilient people are optimistic about the future. Current challenges are viewed as temporary. There is a real expectation that things will improve in the near future. Only when you're lucky will you get more than you expect, so it's wise to expect more of what you want!
Are you optimistic or pessimistic?
Accepting of bad times.
Resilient people are accepting of bad times. They realize that bad things are bound to happen. They accept it with a minimal amount of emotional fuss. Consider that getting upset has never been a genuine solution for any problem.
How do you handle the bad times?
Aware of their strengths.
Resilient people are aware of their strengths. They have faith in themselves and believe they can be successful with their knowledge and abilities. Remember that it's difficult to take action when you expect to fail.
What are your strengths?
Focused on what they can change.
Resilient people are focused on what they can change. They don't worry about the things that are out of their influence or control. They focus on changing the things that can be changed.
What do you control? What can you change?
Resilient people are pro-active. Resilient people don't wait for someone else to come and save them. They take action and do everything they can to help themselves.
How pro-active are you?
Forward-looking and understand that you must sometimes take risks.
Resilient people are forward-looking and understand that you must sometimes take risks. Those with a high-degree of resiliency look at the possibilities and are willing to take on a reasonable degree of risk to create an even better future.
Are you a risk-taker?
Do you possess any of these traits?
What can you do to improve your resiliency?
It has been said that the ability to respond strongly in the face of adversity may have a genetic component. Some people are simply born with a greater capacity to deal with challenging situations than others.
Regardless, we all have some capacity for rising up to deal with adversity.
Stand up and take control back!
Follow these four tips to strengthen your resilience:
Force yourself to focus on the positives.
What are the positives of the situation?
Think about the most resilient people you know.
How would they handle your challenging situation? What can you learn from them?
Who are the most resilient people you know?
Focus on solutions.
Think about how you can solve your dilemma. Focus on it. Avoid wallowing over the dilemma itself.
What solutions can you come up with?
Call on friends and family for support.
Call on friends and family for support. Everything seems easier with a little help and support. Make new friends when you have the opportunity. The stronger your network, the easier your life will be.
Who can help you?
Adversity is a fact of life.
We all face it from time to time.
However, you can choose how you’re going to handle it.
Just because you’ve struggled to overcome obstacles, roadblocks and dead-ends in the past doesn’t mean that pattern must continue.
Develop your resilience.
Focus on the positives, find a solution, and enlist some help.