How To Quickly Expand Your Comfort Zone, Do More & Be More
"How do I step outside my comfort zone?"
"I freak out when I step outside of my comfort zone. What can I do?"
"I want to be more and do more in my life, but I don't know where to start."
"My comfort zone keeps me feeling safe, but totally unhappy."
Of all the skills you’ll want to acquire in life, learning to deal effectively with discomfort is one of the most important.
Consider all the times you’ve wanted to do something, but either never started or came up short. It’s likely that your inability to handle the resulting discomfort was the cause.
Unfortunately, most of us avoid discomfort at all costs. It’s the biggest limiting factor for most people. But, a little discomfort can be a good thing. Even a lot of discomfort is a good thing if you want to change your life quickly.
Unfortunately, avoiding discomfort quickly becomes a habit. You instantly feel better when you evade the thing that’s causing the discomfort. It becomes a preferred coping mechanism. It also self-imposes limits.
The good news is you can free yourself from these limits!
The key to mastering discomfort is to work at becoming more comfortable in challenging situations. As you move forward, you increase your comfort zone little by little. Before you know it, you’ve erased the limits you had previously set for yourself.
Follow this six step process to become more comfortable with discomfort and finally set yourself free:
Start with something that’s difficult, but not too difficult
Learning Chinese is very difficult. But eating all your vegetables isn't too difficult. Starting a gentle exercise program isn't too difficult, either.
What are you going to start with?
If you're going to start exercising, start with just 5-10 minutes. Seriously, that's it! No more. You can add a little bit of time each day or week. If you try to start with 60 minutes, it will probably seem too overwhelming to even get started.
Where will you start (be specific)?
Push through a little discomfort.
Maybe you're working on keeping the house clean. You'll likely feel a strong urge to quit just 10 minutes into your cleaning regimen. Keep working. A little later, you may want to quit again, but keep going. The third time, allow yourself to actually stop.
How will you handle discomfort?
Observe your discomfort.
A great way to deal with discomfort is to simply observe it. How does it feel? How you try to avoid the situation that is causing the discomfort? Do you try to distract yourself with other activities?
How does your discomfort feel?
Find a way to smile.
Smiling is a key component of learning to be okay with discomfort. It's hard to be miserable when you're smiling. When the going gets rough, take a deep breath and force yourself to smile.
What makes you smile?
Continue to push a little further the next time.
Just like with exercising, you can always do just a little bit more the next time. Each time you work through a little more discomfort, it gets easier and easier. Your capacity to deal with discomfort will expand quickly.
How much further will you go each time?
You can learn to be comfortable with discomfort. Think of all the amazing things you WILL accomplish if being uncomfortable didn’t stop you! There really isn’t much you couldn’t do.
Remember: those that avoid discomfort the most tend to end up with the most uncomfortable lives. By accepting and managing your discomfort, you can build the life you desire.
Start small, but get started today. Being a little uncomfortable never hurt anyone. Master your discomfort and you’ll set yourself free. Do it.