6 Ways To Change A Behavior You Don't Like
"How do I change a behavior?"
"I've got a bad behavior I want gone!"
"Am I too old to change a behavior?"
"I can be stubborn, but I need some fast behavior modification."
If you are reading this tutorial, there is something about yourself you want to change.
A certain behavior or behaviors to be precise.
What behaviors come to mind?
Since our lives are the result of our long-term behaviors, you can regain control by making positive changes to your behavior patterns.
Following these strategies will make it easier to change your behaviors and exert more control over your experiences:
Make the new behavior as enjoyable as possible.
For instance, you might dislike exercising, but if you could find a way to make it more enjoyable, you would partake more often in this healthy activity. Maybe you could exercise with a friend or discover a new form of exercise that you enjoy.
How are you going to make the new behavior more enjoyable?
Make a list of the positive benefits you'll receive.
By making a list, you'll begin to see the task in a more positive light. Come up with as many benefits as you can and keep the list in plain view.
For example, perhaps you feel like you should eat more nutritiously. Some of the positive aspects of healthier eating might include:
What are the positive benefits you'll receive?
Make a decision.
Just decide that you're going to do it; often that's the hardest part. Making a decision is the first step to accomplishment. Until that point, you're really just wishing.
Are you ready NOW?
Control your thoughts.
If you focus on how much you don't like doing something, it will be much more difficult to get yourself to do it. Try to catch yourself before you get too far down that road. When a negative thought like this arises, substitute a new thought from the list you made in step #2.
What new thoughts will you think?
Reward yourself afterwards.
A little reward can go a long way. So, after a new behavior has taken root, do something nice for yourself. More importantly, be proud of yourself for following through on any behavior that improves your life.
What's your reward?
While getting started is often the most difficult part, it can be easy to backslide if you get distracted and stop paying attention. Every day, review how you did. How successful were you with exhibiting the new behavior? Each moment you spend measuring your progress serves as a daily reminder. This will help solidify the behavior.
What can you do to improve your confidence (be as specific as you can)?
Changing behaviors can be challenging, but it can improve your life in the long-term.
Examine which behaviors you might want to alter to take your life to the next level, and then apply the process above.
Be patient with yourself - you may have been doing something a certain way for many years. Some things will take time to change, but you can do it!