One of the misconceptions that comes with happiness is that many people think it is and only associated with someone or something. A lot of us believe that if we have a larger house, a better education, or a more expensive car, then we will be truly happy and content with life.
Others assume that if they are able to make someone happy through the good deeds that they have done, then they will also be extremely happy. The same is true of people who receive gifts and tokens of appreciation. Indeed, happiness is a subjective state; and to finally conclude that one is truly so is something that all of us covet.
The bottom line is that you don’t have to rely on an object or a person to make you happy. You yourself can be happy – you alone can be happy. How, you say? This doesn't mean you should shut your doors on relationships with other people and start trying to be self-absorbed. Rather, it means that it only takes a little to make yourself happy.
Here are some tips to help you appreciate yourself and your life a lot more.
Go out and walk around the neighborhood. You will find that admiring the beautiful flowers around you, feeling the warm rays of the sun on your face, or breathing the fresh scent of air makes you feel calm and at peace with the world and yourself. Plus, this is a good way to exercise and to stretch your legs. In fact, several studies have shown that exercise gives off “the happy hormones” or endorphines, which help increase your enjoyment.
Read a good book. Make sure that what you read is right for you and your thoughts. Don’t go lounging around with a book that seems to ignite all the energy, and anger, within you. Grab a positive paperback, something leadership inspired, or something that will help you get rid of your shyness. You can take your reading to the next level and head over to a local bookstore and read your book of choice at a nearby al fresco cafe, so you can do some people-watching while you're on it.
Listen to music. One of the best ways to relax and soothe your nerves is to listen to your favorite artists. You will find that instrumentals from the world's greatest composers, like Bach and Mozart, help jumpstart your mood. If you're seeking some quiet time, you can try nature sounds and ballads.
Meet new people. Sometimes, we feel a little burned out when we see the same faces every single day. Go out and start making new friends and acquaintances. Talk to the neighbor you've been exchanging waves with for the past month. Make small talk at the dry cleaners. Visit a salon and have a chat with the stylist while she does your hair. Attend hobbyists conferences and seminars. In short, take one step out of your comfort zone and introduce yourself to novel things.
The bottom line is, if you truly want to be happy, you must start by changing your view of things towards the positive. Sure, life can be challenging sometimes, but if you learn to channel the good-natured and positive self in you, happiness will be within arm's reach.
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